The Decision

Every proposal plan starts with the same thing… a decision to do it! Sarah and I grew very close over the ’14/’15 winter. We spent more and more time in each other’s company with the sole exception of Christmas, when we were apart for several weeks due to competing family visits. It was over the course of that break that it really settled in for me that I wanted to be with Sarah for the rest of my life. I grew moderately anxious that when I got back to Rochester from the family home in NJ, that Sarah wouldn’t feel as strongly, and that it would all come crashing down for me.

That was silly. I got home, reconnected with Sarah and realized that she felt just as strongly for me as I did for her. So I started planning. 🙂

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The short version for now until I write up a longer one: I was using OkCupid because as a farmer and an introvert, I wasn’t going to meet a lot of potential dates during everyday life.  During the winter/spring of 2014 I was going on some “first dates” with a couple guys, but nothing special was happening.  Only with one man did I get a chance to relax and enjoy the dates because he could carry an intelligent conversation and make me laugh, but he took forever to respond to online messages or texts, so I was sure he wasn’t interested in me, and with how busy he was with work and friends, I was pretty sure he wasn’t serious looking then anyway.

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I’d been using OkCupid for a few years by January 2014, which is when Sarah first contacted me. While I’d had some success on the site, January brought some interesting professional times for me, and I went into a bit of a lurker mode, not looking for or expecting anyone.

When she first reached out, I… *hangs head*… took a month to get back to her. Then another month to respond to the first response!

It was a busy time for me. My employer, Cynergy, had just been bought by my current employer, KPMG. As someone moderately high on the responsibility food chain, I had a decent amount on my plate. But as Sarah once said to me in those early days, “you make time for what matters”. I only wish I’d done so sooner!

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